There is an oft used phrase in EFT, an attachment based approach to healing marital distress, “catching bullets”. I use this phrase in my counseling sessions with couples to help them (and ourselves) work on not being reactive to their partners negative comments. This helps couples learn to stay out of, stop or slow down […]
We are in a broken world, we are broken ourselves, and yet we are in a redeemed world, and we are healed, made whole by love. We exist in the middle of this tension and we tend to want to go one way or the other, to have things clarified and settled, even if its […]
"God does not lead the soul by shaming it, just as a good parent would not shame his or her child. It doesn't work anyway. We have all done it at times, and if we were raised in a punitive way our selves, we still tend to think that is the way to motivate people--by […]
I apologize for sending something out again so soon but I realized that I made liking my business Facebook page too complicated. If you will click link to Don Sizemore & Associates in this email, you can just click the Facebook link at top right of my website. This will take you to my Facebook […]
It seems like the only times I desire transformation is when I am suffering. Richard Rohr, a Franciscan priest, spiritual director, and writer says that transformation only occurs in the context of great pain or great love. The point is that we are open to transformation, to changing our lives when we experience something larger […]
A spiritual director who was visiting a local beach found a group of family members who were shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked, 'Why do people shout in anger at each other?' The disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, […]
There are several questions any couple can consider to reflect on the state of their marriage. One of the things couples do is get caught up in our every day responsibilities and activities and miss what is going on with our partner. Even if we schedule a “date night” for togetherness and connection we often […]
Join Don Sizemore and his wife Carolyn for seven Sunday mornings on “The Meaning of Marriage”. We will use Timothy Keller's book “The Meaning of Marriage” as a framework for learning what a biblical marriage looks like, what is asked of us as believers, and how it helps form us into authentic followers of Jesus. […]
Most couples wait too long to come in for counseling. In fact, some research indicates that it takes an average of five years after problems with the relationship begin before a couple will seek help. Here are some significant warning signs. Any one of these indicates a relationship that is heading for trouble. 1. Is […]
For one, it is effective, very effective. It actually helps bring about changes so that couples are able to connect with each other. It does not focus specifically on better communication skills but helps make real communication possible, the kind of communication that says: "You get me, you understand me." It does not focus on […]
