There are several questions any couple can consider to reflect on the state of their marriage. One of the things couples do is get caught up in our every day responsibilities and activities and miss what is going on with our partner. Even if we schedule a “date night” for togetherness and connection we often don’t really talk to each other. To get the conversation going consider answering these questions together.
What are the things you like most about your relationship?
What do you like most about your partner?
What are the things you would like to be different about your relationship?
Can you remember together a time or season when you both felt close?
What is one of the most important things you do that helps your partner feel loved?
These are five simple questions that can initiate a more in depth conversation. Try and expand each question with follow up questions or comments. Avoid one word or one sentence answers. Be willing to be present in the conversation by putting your smartphone and other distractions to the side. Give your partner your full attention and you will likely discover something new about your partner, an appreciation of who they are that you had not seen before. This is a good feeling experience that automatically draws you closer to one another. Now that is a successful and rewarding date night!